Recently I have only been complaining about the injustices of my life, of how people judge me on the basis of a stereotypical image in their minds, which is mostly untrue. I also have to admit that Alhamdolilah Allah has bestowed on me a lot of respect.
I go out with my kids, sometimes I use a bus to go somewhere, mainly because the kids like it! Alhamdolillah when I enter, out of respect probably because of my appearance people go out of their way to help me with a pushchair or stroller I have, or leaving their seats for me. A lot of times when a man is seated and there is an only seat next to him that is empty but I prefer to stand up, he quickly leaves it. A lot of times, people keep holding the door for me while I get out or in of the bus, a lot of times the bus driver asks me if I need any help, Alhamdolillah.
I was prompted to write this as someone yesterday made a comment that I overheard: When you come to Europe and you see the contrast in people, on one hand people are almost wearing nothing ( summer!!) and on the other hand people like this woman here, makes you feel thankful to God! It was a Hindu Indian person…
In general despite my ventures sans my husband these days, in life generally Allah has given me a lot of respect everywhere Alhamdolillah. I think that subconsciously no matter how superficial a person is, he would still be inclined to people who cover themselves who do not drink or do not smoke or do not party and do not gamble. No matter how “modern” the western society has become because of media brainwashing, telling them everything is ok, it’s not! And it is a fact. People cannot eradicate the feeling of good and bad that Allah has created them with.
A few weeks ago I read in a magazine here that a woman who had been married for 10 or 15 years was in a relationship with another man and it troubled her deeply so as to what to do. The magazine consultant said, stay with your husband if you love him so much and think you are anchored in your marriage but enjoy with the other, younger man until you get bored! Astaghfirullah. I thought, so much for trying to read French for improvement!
The Geneva fête has started, lots of foreigners come in the summer and of them most are Arabs. I went there yesterday, blaring music, festival rides, lots of stuff good and bad sold for extravagant prices, utter non sense! All these Arabs were huddled there like bees in a hive wearing such ridiculous clothes and bright lipsticks that it would make you laugh. I am not a person to judge, but I noticed how people reacted to them sadly not good.
If we are Muslims, we must respect ourselves, our religion and make other people respect it too. If we ourselves do not respect our religion and Allah’s commands no one will respect us. I hear people saying that covering for a woman should not be a standard for judging her. In Islamic terms if she wears normal clothes and does her prayers on time and has a good character then nothing else matters. I have not only travelled but lived in at least 8 countries in my adulthood. I have seen the same attitude from America to Asia and Europe that even in the western society people respect the woman who dresses modestly. People DO judge a person by the way he appears. Why do people clean or wear nice clothes or shoes or put on nice perfumes, they know they make a better impression if they are present able. Similarly we as Muslims should try and retain the beauty of our faith by respecting it and implying it in our lives… It is a significant point and we should try and correct our faith too. I recently read in the translation of one of the chapters of the quran I think either 13, 14 15 or 16 that when truth comes, evil goes away itself. If our hearts have faith we will not hesitate to make it known by applying our way of life to our appearance and dress up. Allaho Akbar, see how Islam goes according to the human “fitrah” nature. When one is inspired by a singer, or someone they would like to dress up like them it is human nature that when you dedicated to something or someone you would like to imitate their way of dressing and appearing, so Allah gave us clear orders on how to do that. If we had a new faith but same ways of living it would hurt us that we are having different way of life but have to live like the disbelievers. Allah gifted us with completely new set of rules and laws to follow, Alhamdolillah.
This also sets me thinking. When Islam was introduced, the newly converted were so grossed with idol worshipping and any other faiths that they did not want to have anything to do with them and spent their lives trying to prove themselves as different because they spoke the same language and lived in the same place, it was hard for them yet they tried. Today we are different and we have different set of morals and values to follow and yet every day we want to be like them, live among them. I so wish us as Muslims respected ourselves and our religion.
May Allah have mercy on us, ameen.